Parent / Coach Communication

Parent / Coach Relationship

Parenting and coaching are both extremely difficult vocations. We are able to provide our student athletes with the greatest benefits by establishing an understanding of each other’s roles and expectations. When your children become involved in Mater Dei’s Athletics program, as parents you should know what to expect.

Communications You Should Expect From Your Child’s Coach

  • The coach’s philosophy.
  • The coach’s expectations for your child, as well as his / her expectations for all players on the team.
  • Location and times of all practices and contests.
  • Team requirements, i.e., fees, special equipment, off-season conditioning.
  • Procedures and protocols that will be followed should your child be injured during their participation in athletics.
  • Disciplinary situations that might result in your child being denied the opportunity to participate in Mater Dei Athletics.

Communications Coaches Expect From Parents

  • Express your concerns directly to the coach.
  • Notification of any schedule conflicts well in advance.
  • Specific concerns regarding the coach’s philosophy and/or expectations.

As your children become involved in the athletic programs at Mater Dei High School, they will experience some of the most rewarding moments of their lives. It is important to understand that there also may be times when things do not go the way you or your child wish. At these times, direct discussion with the coach is encouraged.

Appropriate Concerns To Discuss With Coaches

  • The treatment of your child mentally and physically.
  • Ways to help your child improve.
  • Concerns about your child’s behavior.

It is very difficult to accept your child’s not playing as much as you may hope. Coaches are professionals; they make judgments and decisions based on what they believe to be best for all students involved. As you have seen from the list above, certain things can be and should be discussed with your child’s coach. Other things, such as the following issues, must be left to the discretion of the coach.

Issues Not Appropriate To Discuss With Coaches

  • Playing Time
  • Team Strategy
  • Play Calling
  • Other Student-Athletes

These are situations that may require a private conference between the coach and parent. These conferences are encouraged. It is important that both the parents and coaches involved have a clear understanding of each other's position. When these conferences are necessary, the following procedure should be followed to help promote a resolution to the issue of concern:

THE PROCEDURE YOU SHOULD FOLLOW IF
YOU HAVE A CONCERN TO DISCUSS WITH A COACH

  • Call to set up an appointment.
  • The Mater Dei High School telephone number is 732-671-9100.
  • If the coach cannot be reached, call the Director of Athletics, Mr. Gary Carmody. He will set up the meeting for you.
  • Please do not attempt to confront a coach or meet with him / her before or after a contest or practice. These can be emotional times for both the parent and the coach. Meetings of this nature usually do not promote resolutions.

The Next Step: What A Parent Can Do If The Meeting With
The Coach Did Not Provide A Satisfactory Resolution

  • Call and set up an appointment with the Director of Athletics to discuss the situation.
  • At this meeting, the appropriate next step can be determined.
  • Since research indicates a student involved in co-curricular activities has a greater chance of success during adulthood, these programs have been established.

Many of the character traits required to be successful participants are exactly those that will promote a successful life after high school. We hope the information provided makes both your child’s and your experience with the Mater Dei High School Athletic Program less stressful and more enjoyable.

 

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